I Just Turned Down A Marriage Proposal!

I heard "Will you marry me?" and basically fell off my chair! I grinned from ear to ear and felt my hair stand!

"YES!" was my first reaction.

Then... it was as if time stood still and flashes of my life rolled through. My children, my husband, my family, my future!

I was watching a movie of my life. The laughter, the joy, and the pain all in one.

I stopped and looked at the person and said, "I'm sorry, but my answer is no!"

So, who asked me?

It was the person in the mirror! I asked myself! That may sound silly to some, but think about it...

Would you marry yourself?

What qualities and attributes do you bring to the table? What do you have to offer the other person? What does the other individual have that attracts you? What securities or insecurities are attached to you? Do you know your strengths and weaknesses?

Would you want someone exactly like you?

Some of you may say, "Absolutely!" While others may say, "Absolutely NOT!"

Well, my reaction was somewhere in the middle, but ultimately it was no! I'm intelligent, educated, strong, loyal, hardworking, passionate, loving, honest, fun, friendly, and many more.

However, I also possess weaknesses. I am argumentative, stubborn, unorganized, shy, and at times I can say and do some pretty mean things.

Now, that's me on me!

My husband, on the other hand, has a totally different perspective. He fell in love with ME! Not someone he wanted me to be! Not someone he could change!

Just me!

Do opposites attract? I would say yes! Do likes attract? I would say yes!

Are first impressions important? Can you change first impressions? Yeah, you could! But is it worth the extra work?

I've learned that someones perspective or impression is "their" truth. It may not be accurate, but it's theirs to hold. It's up to you (if you want) to change if it's wrong, or to hold onto it, if it's right!

Bottom line: Although I wouldn't marry myself, I love myself! It is because of this self-love and worth that I strive to succeed in life. I surround myself and my loved ones with positive energy!

You've heard it before: You can't give away what you don't have! So, become someone of wealth and someone to love! What wealth is, is up to you! And as for love, well, that's yours to decided, too! Only you can answer these questions. There is no right and there is no wrong.

I will continue to grow, learn and mature. I read, I laugh, I cry. I celebrate, I pray, I understand! I help, I honor, I obey... and I LOVE!!

I can say with confidence, I'm not the same person my husband married 16 plus years ago...but I'm definitely better!

Secret #1

Secret #1: "Have a mind that is open to everything and attached to nothing!" by Dr. Wayne Dyer Secrets for Success and Inner Peace

Is this trully possible? We are all attached to something, right?! Be it our friends, family, political affiliation, religion, education, cultural background, social status...take your pick. There are many out there!

It WOULD be a beautiful thing to have an open mind, don't you think?

What would it be like if we didn't have prejudices?

If we just accepted things without hesitation?

If we accepted people for who they are and not who we want them to be?!

As parents we always want more out of our children (better grades, better attitude, cleaner room). As managers we want more from our employees (more sales, better customer service). As employees we want more out of our corporation (better communication, more money, more flexibility). As a spouse you want more from your significant other (more PDA's, more quality time, or a simple "I love you!").

So is that having an open mind or are these ideas embedded from our upbringing? Can we TRULLY have an open mind and attached to nothing?

Can we move from our past experiences and just accept?

Do we accept and tolerate...or do we just accept without limitations?

So, back to the 1st secret: " Have a mind that is open to everything and attached to nothing." Can we want more but with restricitons?

Fortunately we were all raised by someone. Someone protected us, fed us, gave us shelter and molded us. And although some had really good childhoods and others had unspeakable challenges, we "evolved".

Bottomline: Accept those for who they are, where they are in life and where they want to be! Be patient and tolerant with their challenges by giving a hand.

When was the last time you helped someone up... instead of knocking them down