I Just Turned Down A Marriage Proposal!

I heard "Will you marry me?" and basically fell off my chair! I grinned from ear to ear and felt my hair stand!

"YES!" was my first reaction.

Then... it was as if time stood still and flashes of my life rolled through. My children, my husband, my family, my future!

I was watching a movie of my life. The laughter, the joy, and the pain all in one.

I stopped and looked at the person and said, "I'm sorry, but my answer is no!"

So, who asked me?

It was the person in the mirror! I asked myself! That may sound silly to some, but think about it...

Would you marry yourself?

What qualities and attributes do you bring to the table? What do you have to offer the other person? What does the other individual have that attracts you? What securities or insecurities are attached to you? Do you know your strengths and weaknesses?

Would you want someone exactly like you?

Some of you may say, "Absolutely!" While others may say, "Absolutely NOT!"

Well, my reaction was somewhere in the middle, but ultimately it was no! I'm intelligent, educated, strong, loyal, hardworking, passionate, loving, honest, fun, friendly, and many more.

However, I also possess weaknesses. I am argumentative, stubborn, unorganized, shy, and at times I can say and do some pretty mean things.

Now, that's me on me!

My husband, on the other hand, has a totally different perspective. He fell in love with ME! Not someone he wanted me to be! Not someone he could change!

Just me!

Do opposites attract? I would say yes! Do likes attract? I would say yes!

Are first impressions important? Can you change first impressions? Yeah, you could! But is it worth the extra work?

I've learned that someones perspective or impression is "their" truth. It may not be accurate, but it's theirs to hold. It's up to you (if you want) to change if it's wrong, or to hold onto it, if it's right!

Bottom line: Although I wouldn't marry myself, I love myself! It is because of this self-love and worth that I strive to succeed in life. I surround myself and my loved ones with positive energy!

You've heard it before: You can't give away what you don't have! So, become someone of wealth and someone to love! What wealth is, is up to you! And as for love, well, that's yours to decided, too! Only you can answer these questions. There is no right and there is no wrong.

I will continue to grow, learn and mature. I read, I laugh, I cry. I celebrate, I pray, I understand! I help, I honor, I obey... and I LOVE!!

I can say with confidence, I'm not the same person my husband married 16 plus years ago...but I'm definitely better!